Today, we figure out what is the first TV show or movie to do a plot involving computer dating.
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A regular plot for over a decade in TV sitcoms was a computer dating plot, where a computer makes an unlikely match, like Jack and Janet being paired with each other on an episode of Three’s Company (hence the featured image). However, reader Don S. wanted to know when this sort of plotline was first used in either a movie or a TV show. Let’s see what we can see!
Now, as soon as computers became practical things in the 1940s, they were used for computer dating, but only as a sort of gimmicky thing. For instance, one of the earliest TV appearances where computer dating was discussed was an episode of People Are Funny in 1956, where Bill Harper and Dorilla Dufresne appeared as a couple matched by UNIVAC.
However, it was not until 1964 that the first commercial computer service began in London, called the St. James Computer Dating Service. Some Harvard students launched the first American version the following year.
Okay, so that’s really where we’re looking, as when computer dating went COMMERCIAL, that’s when it really became a “thing” for TV shows (movies took longer, but in 1960, there WAS a movie involving a computer choosing the new head of the science department at a college, and it chose a former stripper-turned-scientist in Sex Kittens Go to College, a Mamie Van Doran vehicle).
First off, though, let me note that there was a 1961 episode of My Living Doll (a short-lived sitcom starring Bob Cummings as a Bob McDonald, a psychiatrist who is given control of a robot, played by a young Julie Newmar, to protect her from the government) where Bob uses Newmar’s robot brain to find the perfect date for his best friend, Peter (played by Jack Mullaney, who was obsessed with the robot, “Rhoda,” so Bob needed to find him a new date) (here is Peter and Rhoda in the episode)
That episode, dubbed “The Love Machine,” is sort like computer dating, but not REALLY, right? I think we all know what we’re thinking when we say computer dating plots, and that wasn’t until 1965’s My Three Sons episode, “Steve and the Computer,” where the engaged eldest son on the show, Mike (Tim Considine) and his fiancée, Sally (Meredith MacRae) are dismayed to see that a computer dating service didn’t pair them together.
Steve (Fred MacMurray) then has a dumb dream about machines telling everyone what to do. My Three Sons would go back to the computer dating well in Season 8.
A couple of months after the My Three Sons episode, Bob Newhart starred in a TV movie about a guy using a computer to pick out a wife.
By 1968, literally half a dozen TV shows had done computer dating plotlines.
EDITED TO ADD: My pal Neil below noted that there was an unaired Archie pilot in 1964 that used a computer to work as a dating service (here is Betty, Archie and Veronica trying to convince teens to pick a card that could then be punched out with their dating data)…
It didn’t actually AIR in 1964 (which is how I missed it), but I think you could easily argue that it should count over the My Three Sons episode. I’ll let you folks figure that out for yourself!
Thanks for the question, Don!
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I’m not sure exactly what year it was, but in the very early 60’s, there was a pilot for an Archie tv series that did an exact computer-as-date-matching plot. The pilot didn’t and so the producers move on, and their next pilot project was Bewitched.
Thanks, Neil, I was thrown by it not airing, but yep, that pilot was done in 1964! I’ll add that in there as an option.
People always comment on how new technologies (especially cell phones) kill certain types of plot points or tropes, but I’ve always been more interested in what new kinds of plots can now only happen thanks to these technologies.
I was going to note the computer-dating plotline on “I Dream of Jeannie,” but it was relatively late (1969) AND it wasn’t particularly computer-y (the woman who ran the place realized Jeannie was looking for a date for an astronaut, so she set herself up on the date with Major Healey instead).
I caught a little bit of a “Benson” the other night (“Human Element”) in which the very 1980s robot could interact with humans, cook and even write on at least a ChatGPT level, and I watch way too much “Three’s Company,” so my two suggestions for this feature are:
— First TV or movie in a contemporary setting to have an authentic, believable real-world robot (so nothing set in the future, and nothing like that “Benson” episode that we could look at 40 years later and say “Robots STILL can’t do all that”).
— First TV or movie to do the “ATM spits out way way too much money” plot. (I know “Three’s Company” did it.)
The instant that I saw the banner to this entry, I thought of the My Three Sons episode, “Steve and the Computer”, so I was gratified to see it as your selection.
Aye, the dream sequence in the episode is over the top, but it’s still one of my (and the Good Mrs. Benson’s) favourite episodes of the series.
For those who came in late, the thrust of the episode occurs when, on a lark, eldest Douglas son, Mike, and his fiancée, Sally, submit completed questionnaires to a dating-service computer. They expect that the computer will find them a perfect match. However, as Mr. Cronin indicated, the computer finds them unsuitable for each other, and they are dismayed.
On a hope that the computer is unreliable, Mike asks his father to fill out a questionnaire for himself and another with the answers his late wife (Mike’s mother) would have entered. Those answers are fed into the machine, and it reports that Steve and his wife were an almost perfect match.
This dejects Mike to the point in which he is ready to call off the engagement—until Steve calls him up to the attic and shows him a letter that Louise had sent to Steve during their engagement. I won’t reveal the result, but the upshot is that there are things about the human condition that a computer cannot assess or attribute.
It’s notable, as this is one of the rare episodes that involves Steve’s late wife.
It’s interesting that the unaired 1964 Archie pilot might actually predate the My Three Sons episode that’s usually cited. That ambiguity about what counts as “first” when something never aired makes the question trickier than it seems.
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My Three Sons episode “Steve and the Computer” from 1965 sounds like a strong candidate, especially since the plot explicitly involves a commercial dating service not matching the engaged couple. The author’s note about the unaired 1964 Archie pilot is interesting too, though it’s tricky to count something that never actually aired.